Over the last few years, having a divorce party has become a very real thing. I know it sounds a little nutty, but it’s a fast-growing trend for a reason: they’re fun.
Divorce parties come in many shapes and sizes and have an array of benefits. Some people choose to treat the event like a bachelor party by getting out of town with a core group of friends, while others choose to take the wedding reception approach by throwing a huge, catered party with music and dancing.
It’s All About You
The beauty of a divorce party is that you get to choose what’s right for you, without compromise. This is one event that is all about you as an individual. There are no limits to a your style of party. They’re becoming so popular that you can even get yourself a divorce party planner if want to host the event of the year!
Whether your style is a kegger or a catered affair, we’re going to take a closer look at the types of divorce parties you could plan, and why you should seriously consider throwing one.
The Thank You Divorce Party
Going through a divorce is never easy but the lucky guys out there have a support system to help them through it. Whether it’s been your family who stood by you, or a core group of friends who listened to your rants and sat with you while you fought the sadness, you’ve had a huge amount of help from the people closest to you. A divorce party is a great way to say thank you to them.
Get together with all the people who have helped you through the most difficult time in your life and celebrate what they’ve done for you. I mean really, who doesn’t love being invited to a party that’s all about how great they are?
The Joint Divorce Party
Believe it or not, some couples opt to throw their divorce parties together. This path is definitely not for everybody but if yours was an amicable split, maybe you want to consider one last hurrah with your ex? After all, you started your marriage by hosting a party together, why not end it that way.
The added benefit of this type of party is that it announces to your family and friends that you don’t expect them to pick a side. It may not seem like much to you and your ex, but could be a huge relief to everybody else.
The Celebration Divorce Party
For some guys, divorce has been a long time coming. If you’re in this group, you may want to celebrate the occasion. Maybe yours was an unhappy marriage and you finally feel free to be yourself and follow your dreams. Celebrate that!
Don’t just go for a few drinks with your buddies, go all out. Throw yourself a party where you get to ring in the next stage of your life. We ring in the New Year with a party and high expectations, so why not do the same for your return to bachelorhood?
Why You Should Throw Yourself A Divorce Party
There are so many good reasons to throw yourself a post-divorce bash that the better question is: why wouldn’t you throw yourself a party? Let’s take a closer look at just a few of the reasons you should start planning your divorce party today.
You deserve it.
If you take nothing else from this article, remember that you deserve to celebrate. You’ve been to hell and back, and you deserve to cut loose a little. From the initial conversations about getting divorced, to the lawyers and the financial consequences, you’ve dealt with a huge amount of stuff during your divorce. It’s all over now. That deserves to be celebrated.
Think about it: when was the last time you had a vacation? When was the last time you didn’t feel guilty about leaving your kids? It’s been a while right? So yes, you deserve a party. You deserve to relax and feel happy, if only for one night.
Since we’ve established that you’ve been hugely stressed during your divorce, you’ll welcome the cathartic aspects of a celebration. There is something liberating about announcing to the world that you’re a newly single man and ready to enjoy your new status. It also helps you finally let go of all the emotional crap you’ve been carrying around since the split. There’s nothing like a good party to drive away the pain and suffering.
You owe it to your support crew.
If you’re still uncomfortable throwing a party for yourself, throw it for somebody else. “Thank you” divorce parties are a completely reasonable and acceptable thing. You probably wouldn’t have survived your divorce without your closest friends and family, so throw them a party. Celebrate them and their incredible support instead of celebrating your divorce.
We celebrate landmark events.
It’s what we do as a society. We throw parties to celebrate all kinds of landmark events. Think about it, you’ve probably been to graduation parties, birthday parties, bon voyage parties, Superbowl parties and more. Your divorce is no different from those events.
For better or worse, it’s a landmark event. You are ending one chapter of your life and beginning a new one. It’s exactly the same as the person moving to Europe or the grad getting out of school. Your life is changing and it’s okay to celebrate that, even if it feels scary.
It brings your marriage full circle.
Consider this, you started married life with a giant party where you announced to the world that you were man and wife. Why not end your marriage with a party where you announce to the world that you are now a single man? It’s not the most compelling reason to have a bash, but you have to admit that the symmetry is pretty appealing. It has the added benefit of saving you the hassle of telling people individually about your divorce. Sending an invite to a Divorce Party is a pretty clear signal that you’re no longer a married man.
It will cheer you up.
If nothing else, a fun get-together with friends will make you feel happy even if you’re miserable. Life after divorce isn’t all sunshine and roses. In fact, it can be pretty crappy. So what’s wrong with taking one night off to feel excited again? Nothing. Absolutely nothing.
There’s no point in being unhappy when you could be partying with your crew. Your ex may not love you anymore but there are tons of people that do. Put them all in a room together, add some music, and enjoy your life. You’re divorced, not dead.
Every Party Has a Pooper
Although divorce parties are becoming increasingly more popular and are widely accepted, not everybody will be a fan of your latest venture. Some people in your social circle might be offended by your decision to celebrate your divorce. And that includes your ex.
If you’re worried about what they think, frame it as a party to thank those who helped you get through this difficult time. If you’re not worried about what they think, be honest and tell them that you deserve to be happy and to celebrate the next chapter of your life. Or better yet, don’t tell them anything and have your party as planned. Ultimately, you are the most important person in this situation and you owe it to yourself to have at least one night of fun!
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